Do Not Be a People-Pleaser

Howdy! I hope 2017 has started off well for you.  It should be an exciting year as numerologically it is a “1” year – a time for new beginnings.  I’m sorry that it has taken a while to post this poem as promised. Previously I had saved it as draft and I mistakenly thought I had posted it.  Still every thing happens at exactly the right time. (The following few paragraphs are from my previous introduction.)

It is time to post another of my poems and I am endeavouring to provide my readers an indicative sample of both, the range of subject matter and philosophical directions of my poetry.

This poem has had some positive feedback when I have shared it and it offers what I hope is practical advice.  It seems particularly timely because at this time of the year many people, especially women, put enormous pressure on themselves, trying to make sure things are “just right”.

I hope you enjoy this and it helps you to be peaceful in “the silly season”.

 

Do Not Be a People-Pleaser

Do not be a people-pleaser.

Do not bend over backwards, to keep others happy.

Don’t be so anxious to meet others’ needs, that you’ve anticipated their “needs”,

before they’ve even realized that they have them.

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This behaviour is harmful… to you… and to them.

It is harmful to them because they do not have to struggle.

They do not have to deal with the vagaries of this world.

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Struggling, and setting goals and meeting them are vital steps for each person’s development.

When you meet a need for someone else you deprive that person of the growth,

that comes from struggling to make their dreams come true.

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When you hand things to another on a plate, it is akin to royalty being served by servants.

How is this healthy for them?

How is this healthy for you?

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You are so busy meeting others’ needs that you do not even know what your own are.

You have a compulsion to make others happy…

a compulsion to keep the peace…

to prevent any eventuality which could bring an uproar.

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 Where are you in all this?

When will your needs be met?

.

So what if there are some harsh words?

So what if others are unhappy?

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Peace comes from balance…

Peace comes from within…

You cannot make another person peaceful…

no matter how much you want to…

or how much you care.

Thanks for reading my blog and for a little time sharing my world.

I wish you and all your family and friends and acquaintances and “strangers” (those friends you haven’t met yet) a wonderful peaceful and loving Christmas and New Year holiday season.

Let us all help to make 2017 better and more peaceful and more equitable for the world.

In love and light,

Alan

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